Open communication lines between family members about life decisions. Be honest with yourself about what sparked your concerns. Share this nagging thought with brothers, sisters, and good friends. Rely on your emotional character to bring up such an important question at the right time.

Follow my suggestions to start with a family team of 5. Meet to share and define the questions about health and welfare you want to ask your loved one.

Schedule an in-person meeting at your senior’s current home to get your questions answered. Set limits – no children; minimum of an hour.

While I recommend 75 years of age as a good starting point, the seniors I moved were, on average, 85 years old. Half of the time the senior initiated the contact; half the time a family member initiated contact.
If you’re asking the question, you’re ready to start.

Phone call is free for the first 15-minutes.

Meet this level of resistance by using old photos as a starting point. Ask about recording family stories. Pictures of the home where they grew up spark all kinds of memories for seniors.

When dying in the home is offered, ask what that looks like. Do you want a church service or do you mean to have a wake right here?

Please ask your estate attorney this question. If you don’t have an estate attorney, use this question as your interview question. Compare the answers. Which attorney speaks an answer that you can understand?
Also, please choose an attorney in the state where you live. The topic of probate is very different in every state.
Do not rely on internet answers.